Hi. Here's a summary of the last chapter of Stay or Leave? - out tomorrow 5th January! It summarises the main messages in the book and the chapter title says it all. Once you've read the book and embedded the lessons in it, as it says below, you will realise that: You must NOW choose whether to cling to the known and familiar fears or risk opening yourself up to a less certain but more satisfying life; whether to stay and improve your relationship or open yourself up to an uncertain, but more fulfilling future...
And I'm always here if you want to clarify anything or ask any questions.
Chapter 17: Your job is to be you
This chapter summarises the core messages of the book that will finally open your door to action - stay or leave; move or improve. The perspective on life offered in the book means that you really have no choice in life but to live with the anxiety of crossing Rubicons if you are to have a fulfilling relationship and avoid your own stagnation. We’ve seen that living in a constant state of anxiety requires the courage to address the promises you make to yourself at three o’clock in the morning, whilst driving along a sunny road, whilst abroad on holiday.
Whilst anxiety is both stressful and developmental, guilt is stressful and corrosive. The guilt you feel due to your indecision, knowing you’re not fulfilling your life is horrendous. To take the apparently safe path leads not only to pointlessness, but also to a sense of powerlessness, hopelessness, helplessness and quiet desperation. You must choose whether to cling to the known and familiar fears or risk opening yourself up to a less certain but more satisfying life; whether to stay and improve your relationship or open yourself up to an uncertain, but more fulfilling future.
“Beverly Stone shows through logical steps how to break patterns of destructive thinking and behavior and move into a healthy relationship with yourself and others. Highly recommended.” DEEPAK CHOPRA
“This is the ideal book for anyone looking for the courage to make a change. It’s full of practical, sensitive, helpful strategies, yet it’s also so amazingly readable.” DAWN FRENCH
“I’ve known people trapped in deeply unhappy relationships for years, because of no apparent way out. Indecision only adds to the misery. Beverley Stone’s serious guide to honest, clear ways to change, offers men and women the release to be themselves and is inspiring in its lessons.” ANNA FORD